Welcome back

I haven't blogged in years for so many reasons i cannot explain. Gosh, i can't believe its been years i blogged last.

But this 2016! I sincerely apologize to those who had been following me and felt disappointed with my absence. These were due to reasons beyond my control. But hopefully, Sweet and Sour Realism will be back and better than before with a lot of insightful stuff and much more.

Thank you.

Baby Mama or Marriage?

The Baby Mama trend may not be new but why is it gaining so much popularity? Why are more and more people opting for Baby Mama/Daddy-hood instead of opting for the more traditional marriage approach. Why are the old values being replaced with the non-orthodox ones?

Marriage may not be rosy

Baby Mama/Daddy is trending

Sometimes, people opt for baby mama or daddy-hood because of their own selfish interests and not necessarily because of the economic factors involved. Feel free to tell me your views and opinions and which would you readily gravitate towards.

Unfinished bizness

To all ye Romance genre faithfuls,

Bear thee fruit with thy published works.

(Please don't mind the crap i just typed!)
How many people have fulfilled part or all of their new year resolutions for 2012? If you haven't now's the chance to do so before the year runs out, or worse still before the end of days arrive in December, according to Aztec legend.

For those still hoping they can get their books published by one of the traditional publishing houses, please consider the self-publishing route. Life's too short to go around begging for a pitch to sell your work. Last year alone, over 500,000 people went the self-publishing route and they are now considered as bona-fide authors.

Lastly, have you ever felt your body twitch when you read one of those romance books (especially the love/sex scenes), well...you're not alone ***with a cheeky smile***. give kudos to the author that worked her butt off trying to get that steamy scene right.

Dangers of taking drugs. Period.

Mankind may be extinct with the rate at which people ingest drugs, 
both hard and prescribed.

I won't go into too much details but what i need to specify is that: Drugs are Harmful!!! Whether you choose to believe or not, take a look at the harmful effects of drugs.

VACCINATION: Parents are usually skeptical about the side effects of immunization drugs as it is believed to cause autism.

Drugs have been known to prevent measles, Rubella, etc. But that is a LIE!!! Anyone and everyone who has had a vaccination shot against these terrible diseases would go on to later have them in life. Like Chicken pox for instance. So what's the essence of taking the drugs anyway?

PRESCRIPTION PILLS: Lots of well-known people have fallen victim to the usage of prescription pills. Even when taken in correct doses, prescription pills have side-effects as long as the total length of one's body.

Prescription pills are used for the treatment of body ailments and so on but still pose a great threat to one's health. Scientists need to get back to the drawing board and ensure that these drugs are 100% safe and not waste their time on ammunition and artillery that can end the lives of millions of innocent people in senseless wars.

HARD DRUGS: One way or the other, celebrities have been advocating the legality of the 'infamous' marijuana. Now i don't know if it's an Illuminati gimmick or the other, but the government in each country makes tonnes of money from the illegal sale of drugs. Don't be deceived by the cover of law enforcement. Govt's know the sale of cocaine for instance, is a huge money-making machine and a great source of revenue, hence the laxity in fighting drug cartels.

We have medical marijuana and the like but overall, hard drugs mess with your cognitive function (in other words, your brain) and in the long run, make you eternally hooked on them. while the drug dealers smile to the bank before you land up in the grave.


Why should a perfectly healthy individual engage in drugs??? I don't feel sympathy for those who use their own hands to kill themselves. Herbs seems to be the answer.

If in doubt, just ask Whitney Houston, Elvis Priestley, Heath Ledger, Michael Jackson, Etta James.

SAD GOODBYE TO AN ICON

I hate saying goodbyes. It's so sad that a musical icon is dead at 48. Whitney Houston touched many lives with her beautiful, soul-rendering lyrics and her passionate acting. I grew up listening to songs like "I wanna dance with somebody", "I'm your baby tonight", "I will always love you" etc and films like Waiting to Exhale and my favourite: The Bodyguard.

Unfortunately, her marriage to Bobby Brown was the inception of her downfall in all things (-ly). That is, mentally, spiritually, psychologically, physically and lyrically. But it would also be grossly unfair to heap the whole blame on a gold-digging-beating-drug-dealing husband when she actually divorced him years prior to her death. Yet she couldn't quite shake off the years of drug abuse. Suffice to say, she claimed to be 'totally' drug-free in 2010. And her death remains a mystery.

Interesting enough, it is noteworthy to mention that some artistes like Heath Ledger and Amy Winehouse who also used drugs did not die from purported drug usage but by other means. However, i feel, in my own opinion that drugs do have dangerous long-term consequences. The damage may occur long after the victim is sober.

 The reality of the situation is for everyone to know and understand that drug abuse is bad. And not just HARD DRUGS but PRESCRIPTION  DRUGS as well.

Etta James also passed away due to drug abuse as well, including a host of other great talents. And pop legend MICHEAL JACKSON.

It's also unfortunate that people all over did not give her a chance to make her comeback. Critics criticized her voice, saying it wasn't excellent bla bla.

It's a pity that more and more popular and popular people will  and continue to die from using drugs because of peer pressure, depression or whatever excuse when all they can do is be wise and say no to drugs and follow healthy ways to combat whatever stress they're undergoing.

From the bottom of my heart, i'll miss Whitney Houston and it's so sad she's lost this fight. It's so sad to say goodbye. R.I.P.

Would you read an African book?

No matter what complexion you possess, would you read an African book written by an African author? Before you answer the question, there are some facts you need to know about African books.

1. There is no water-tight genre: The story could cover a sphere of different genres or just one solid genre. It might be romance with some paranormal or just comedy or tragedy mainstream.

2. It is based on Africa: The stories are based on African-related themes and settings, either in urban areas or rural areas. Sometimes, the story might have an African plot but be based in Western settings.

3. The names are African: Hardly would you see real African characters bearing English names. Names like Segi, Bode, Chukwudi, Yaya are just a fraction of the millions of indigenous African names abounding.

4. It is eclectic: If you're looking for that dreamy-paced or starry-eyed character, you would be rudely shocked because the stories are eclectic in every sense of the word. For example, the Head of a household in a story, might be married to four wives and have twenty children, where they live in a bungalow.




Read African books if you're looking for something different with a sense of adventure plus culture from a totally different continent.

Is it wise to enter your works online?

Hello everyone,

Is it wise to enter your stories/scripts/screenplays etc online? Granted that the internet, is one 'gionormous' global satellite village at the click of a button, you need to be careful what you put out there. As aspiring writers, we have the tendency to quickly submit various or impending works online through contests and all what not; in a bid to get noticed or to bag a publisher. But the question is: Is it safe? Second question: How can you ensure your works will be protected and not plagiarised once it gets out there?

With the growing concerns over privacy and security on several social networking sites, one must be very careful in being too open, especially with strangers. It's very difficult to also trust some so-called contest sites as they act under the cover of legitimacy to fraudulently steal your idea.

The trend that is a bit safe and reliable are Critique partnerships, where two or more aspiring writers critique each other's works and constructively engage in criticisms that would ensure each person's growth and development.

I'm not saying entering into writing contests is wrong, but you need to be careful. Another skepticism is where these publishing-giants conduct contests, especially where they need fresh ideas from the un-tapped worldwide talent.(If you beg to differ, please comment below!).
Agreed, writing takes time and patience but doing the right thing correctly is what matters most. As what my Nigerian colleagues will say: SHINE YOUR EYES!!!